Thoughts on the normalization of porn culture

The following rant is sexually explicit and refers to specific sexual acts commonly seen in porn. Do not click to continue if you are uncomfortable with such graphic descriptions or would be uncomfortable reading my personal thoughts on a topic that is highly sexual in nature.



I hate what porn does to people. I do not believe in banning/censoring porn or incriminating anyone involved with the industry, but I think people need to be more self-aware of what they view, how they process it, how it's made, who's involved, and their own perceptions.

I hate the trends it starts and the fantasies it perpetuates as being "normal," and how these become so heavily ingrained in our culture that we tacitly accept them lest our partners find us less sexually appealing.

I hate that thongs are seen as being the only "sexy" type of underwear, and that one becomes significantly less appealing if wearing anything aside from a thong. Why can't the body that wears the thong be sexy on its own?

I hate that porn makes some men think that totally shaved vaginas are the ideal, to the point where they deny that porn had any influence on their "preference" for waxed vaginas, to the point where having nicely-trimmed pubic hair isn't near enough, because it has to be GONE, or else you're just nasty. Why doesn't anyone tell men to shave their balls or wax their pubes when they want to see a waxed vagina all the time?

I hate that porn makes women feel like they need to bleach their assholes. An asshole is an asshole is an asshole. It's not pretty. It's not going to be pink. It's not going to be hairless. Get the fuck over it.

I hate that porn glorifies anal sex. It's going to hurt, and even at the best of times, it's not going to be totally pleasant. And worst of all, anal sex is inevitably going to involve some amount of fecal matter unless you use an enema beforehand. Yes, an enema. They don't show you that in porn. I bet a lot of people find that out the hard way. Probably a lot of guys and girls get grossed out and pissed off when shit goes wrong. It's because porn makes it look like all you have to do is lube it up (or spit on your hand) and shove it in and there's an instant orgasm. It's never the disgusting and painful reality. I know there are women who love anal sex, but there is also an equal amount of women who can't stand it and they find it hard to say "No" to the act... because of its normalization within porn.

I hate that porn glorifies group sex. What about the emotional consequences afterward of getting double or triple-teamed or what have you? when you feel like you're nothing but 3 holes. Where's the emotional fallout in a relationship where one person wants a threesome so badly that the other person just goes along with it, and maybe it was "hot" in the moment, but when it's over, they can't look each other in the eye?

I hate how porn makes it okay to degrade women and falsely shows women who "want" to be degraded. Like hair-pulling. Like getting cum on the face. I bet some people try to convince themselves that it's "hot" at first, but then the novelty just wears off and they feel ridiculous. And they start to think, "Why am I doing this? Why does my partner want to do this? How does it add to our pleasure at all? Am I just a receptacle for someone else's pleasure?"

I hate how porn desensitizes us to sex. I hate how porn desensitizes us to each other.

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